Following a divorce, many families struggle to find stability and routine again. Like most parents, you cannot predict precisely how your child may respond to a breakup. Kids express stress in various ways, depending on their age and personality. Sometimes, the stress results in behavioral problems.
According to Cleveland Clinic, parents can help by trying to understand their child’s feelings.
Be your child’s biggest supporter
Do not let your child feel alone during the divorce process. Kids tend to feel unimportant when their parents do not make time for them. During a divorce, these feelings become stronger. They may worry that one or both parents also want to leave them. Give them time and energy by scheduling one-on-one time where you can have fun.
Let your kid know that his or her feelings matter to you. Be encouraging when your child feels positive and happy. Even if you have negative feelings towards your ex, support your child in his or her relationship with the other parent.
Create a positive and open environment
Kids may come to you with complicated feelings. Even if you do not always know the solution, encourage them to talk to you and be open about their feelings. Divorce is a process that you have to work through with your family. Do not shame them or discipline them for being angry or resentful towards you or your ex-spouse. Negative feelings fade over time and talking with them can keep them from holding those in.
Be reassuring that despite the changes, everything is okay. You can acknowledge the difficulties, but keep a stable routine so your kid can rely on it.